IAmA guy who has been married for 4 years, but I have never been able to have sex with my wife. AMA

Long story short, my wife and I dated for 5 years before getting married, but decided to wait. (stupid looking back on it). On our wedding night things didn't work out... Turns out she has severe vaginismus which means her muscles won't allow penetration, therefore no sex. AMA

Edit: Wow. Didn't expect this to take off like this. I'll do my best to keep up with the questions, but may take a little while since I've gotta work today. Thanks to everyone for writing and the advice., no matter how redditized some of it is. Lol