IamA Male Life Model for Hen/Bachelorette Parties!

How do You manage not to get an anxiety boner??

The first few times I kept a towel close to hand, just in case and was very careful of the poses I did. The more you do it though the easier it is to control things, sure some things make it harder (no pun) like if I'm doing a naughty pose with one or more of the girls or if they're in skimpy sexy costumes (sometimes they've been doing a burlesque class or something) but you just have to get on with it, try and keep your mind active on other things and be professional

Close your eyes and think of England!

gotta think of something! I'm used to it now but even so it can still be difficult, every class is different and all sorts of situations come up that dont expect!

all sorts of situations come up

you've no idea, wee strokes and pats happens all the time, girls wrapping their legs around me is common too, sometimes it can get very weird though, coaxed into a game of twister with the bridesmaids, having a grandmother sit on my knee - you just never know!

Thanks for the answer! So you just tried not to think about it and that worked? Id be hard the whole time haha

Sometimes its easier said than done admittedly, I am human and straight after all! trying not to think about is fine if other things are going on but when attractive women are running their hands over you it can be tough not to think about it! I've learned a bit of control but there can be a breaking point!

sorry for the stupid question, but why is it not ok for you to have a boner in these situations? it'd be a lot sexier

Maybe your right, I'd just feel a bit self conscious tho

I hear a good way to keep a boner down is to sing Spongebob Squarepants theme in your head.

I've heard a few things but never that one! I asked an anatomy model once if he had any tips before I'd started and he said pick a number and number the higher the better and try to keep adding it to itself. I guess this works if you're in a lecture or proper class but with everything that goes on I cant do it. Anytime I try to drift away I always seem to get pulled into a conversation. music helps, i normally tell them to keep the music on, or put music on! I've bitten the inside of my mouth or pinched myself really hard at times to try and stave it off, just on occasion when it gets a bit steamy!

If you tense any large muscle group, it will redirect blood flow and prevent & terminate erections. Thighs work well.

you find you do this as a natural reaction, you're right it does help- its also something else to focus on

What do you do when you do get to the breaking point? How do the women react?

A couple of times i've had to cut poses short and come up with some different ideas, sometimes the girls can tell and they'll happily give me a moment! I've had the odd girl who doesn't know when to quit, a couple have even started to kiss me, i have to be honest with them and ask them to sit down - its not why i'm here

Isn't the whole point to get a boner and let the ladies touch it?

thats not what I do, not why i'm in it. not having a go at guys who do that but i wouldnt feel right charging for that sort of thing

Has there ever been a situation where you did get a boner? And how did you get out of it?

its happened a couple of times, and the girls noticed - theres no way out really, I just asked them to excuse me as I stood up grabbed a towel then wedged it between my legs. I'd normally try and get them all laughing - "thats your fault" or "one of the hazards of the jobs" is the kind of thing I say, after a minute it goes away and we can get on with things

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I love meeting people, its such a great environment, everyone is so friendly and happy. I was quite shy before so its really helped my social skills

Meeting people

*Meating people.

FTFY

lol!

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It was, I'd tried to do different things before and never had the guts to follow through, the first few times I did it i gave myself a different name- it was like i was acting or something, i soon got to realise I was the centre of attention, my social anxiety used to stem from worrying about being ignored

So do you start stripping whenever you feel anxious?

I don't see it as stripping, why should I be seen as different from a life model at any other art class? Social anxiety is a common problem, I was never comfortable in big groups because I felt I was always ignored - i dont expect anyone to understand this unless you've suffered from it. Doing what I do makes me the centre of attention, people listen to what I say, laugh at my jokes and appreciate my time, it makes me feel good and has helped me in the rest of my life. Maybe its not a textbook way of dealing with it but I dont care, it works for me

everyone is so drunk

FTFY

I certainly don't drink before a job, maybe i'll have a shot or something with the girls if its offered but only out of politeness. Yes a lot of them can be a bit merry but this is generally an afternoon or early evening activity for them, they've got their night out to come so the drinking hasn't long started!

What kind if criticisms do you encounter and how do you get around them? I imagine there's always that one person...

you're right, often there is that one person, i am criticised for all sorts of daft things - my tattoos, my 'boring' poses, not saying much. Most of the time the rest of the group will come to my defence, not in a serious way, just with a joke or something. People are there to have a good time and they always seem pleased in the end

Have you ever wondered if there was more to life, other than being really, really, ridiculously good looking?

of course there is, and i dont see myself as ridiculously good looking, i think i'm a fairly average looking guy. as for girls - yes physical attraction is important initially but conversation, sense of humour, likes/dislikes are far more important in the long term. I've heard it said - its easier to find someone you'd like to sleep with than to sit and have a coffee with, and its true

can you do blue steel

as in zoolander?!? never tried!

Good on you mate. They all look like they're having such fun.

They sure are, like I've said 99% of people who come to the parties have a ball, its all just good natured fun and I get a lot of bookings from people who've seen me before. It's a big night for the ladies and I'm glad I can be part of it

have a ball

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cheers!

I've heard there are a lot of crazy sexual experiences male bachelorette dancers supposedly encounter, how much of that is true? Also give a good story subject related? , thx in advance

I'd just like to clarify I'm not a dancer, I do not offer erotic services - I simply pose nude and allow myself to drawn or painted. Even when I pose with one of the women its strictly that, just posing. I tell them at the start "I dont work hard!" and its on my website too, thats not the kind of guy I am. sorry to disappoint! Some of the ladies can be a bit keen or frisky but thats another story!

do tell that other story...

dont know what to tell you, i've let them tie me up to a chair, pose like a dom, lick body chocolate from me, paint on me with their hands feet, dress my up in bits of costumes - firemans hats/boas/sailors, even blindfold me. It can be very interesting sometimes!

I must ask more about the bodypainting - you allow yourself to be painted on at these parties? with hands and feet?

Yeah I've done this a couple of times, some parties have asked for a bodypaint model, i think there is a market for it on its own to be honest. Its a lot more intimate as the girls spend the time actually fondling me and painting on me. Its a wonderful experience. Mostly this is done with fingers but one time the bride to be was encouraged to leave footprints all over me, this was a bit strange - laying on the floor whilst she pressed her feet all over my body, quite an experience!

"Come fondle paint on my balls while I try not to get a boner!"

new slogan?

could be! you'd be surprised how women react to this though, at first its a bit of a joke with shouts of things like "oh i think he likes that" and "careful i've had the carpet cleaned" but I think they're really appreciative of it, like I've said the girls who come to a party like this know they're not getting a stripper, it makes it more relaxed and if they see I just take things in my stride they tend to get involved a bit more. Dont get me wrong, there's been times when I've had girls touch me, stroke me with a paint brush and felt the urges, i'm a normal guy! I'm a professional though, its not what they want to see.

Since when are chicks not into boners?

there's a type of woman who are not into erotic dancers, sexual expression, anything like that. thats who typically book these classes, they are happy to look, maybe even have a free touch but they don't want it to turn into anything too sexual, there is a market for both, and I'm involved in this one

bodypaint model, i think there is a market for it on its own to be honest.

So would a fatter person make more money, since the canvas is larger?

maybe! could be worth a shot

I would like to extend to you an invitation to the pants party...

cool!

I must ask you more about some of the kinkier things you mention - the tieing up dom stuff, surely that is quite sexual?

I've done it once or twice, yes i suppose there is a sexual element to it but i've never really been into bondage or anything like that so I just go with the flow, its just a bit of fun nothing serious

Do you allow yourself to be tied up whilst naked? is this not quite uncomfortable or potentially revealing for you?

Not sure what you mean by revealing, I'm always in control and like i say its only been a few times the groups have done this. Yes I am naked, I am always naked when I pose, I been tied to a chair using stockings and pantyhose - its not like I couldn't set myself free if i absolutely had to!

By revealing, I was thinking if you were tied up you'd have no means of covering yourself up if you suddenly became aroused, has this really never happened in this situation - i would find it quite sexy, especially if the ladies are using their pantyhose to tie me up

Like i've said its all part of the job, of course i've been nervous about getting an erection but not just in this situation in any pose. A couple of times i've had my legs tied to chair legs I have felt exposed I guess- theres obviously no way of covering up, you just have to keep focused.

Wouldn't an erection sort of be expected?

before I started I saw a few sites where guys were doing this, some of them flaunted erections and some didn't. Its a personal choice, like i say i'm no exhibitionist and don't do erotic services, i make it clear on my website and when booking. I'm not having a go at the other guys who do do it but its not me. That said, some of the girls maybe do expect it, and some of them definitely try make me hard, i've had hands sliding up thighs, feathers tickling me, feet flicking at me - I try to laugh it off, sometimes it is difficult to stay focused but I find it worth it in the end, it earns respect and I feel better in myself. I dont have it in to flaunt an erection in a room full of women, i'd feel quite sordid.

Ok, so they touch you?

Always! though most of the time they'll just stroke at my chest and face, some a bit more daring will grab and pinch my bum, and yes there is the odd one who'll think nothing of having a quick feel of my penis - this is mostly done with a boa or feather or some kind of prodding device. Its a tough job sometimes!

Do you react to this? Or just stay stoic the whole time?

I try to stay professional, not always easy though!

Did you ever fuck/get a BJ/etc. from any of the girls at the party?

certainly not during the party, as i've said my parties are not erotic so i don't go down that road. for the record - yes i have scored with a couple of party guests after hours, and dated a few too, its a good way to meet women!

you are my hero

Thank you!

How big is your wang?

do you want an honest answer?!? Only joking you can catch a glimpse in a few of the photo's, i'm big enough thank you, no self consciousness here!

This was my first question too - just figuring out whether I could get into this line of work...

for the type of classes i do size isnt important (within reason) its all just fun, if you're good looking and have good chat that could more than compensate

Have you ever had to bounce or reprimand any unruly or overly aggressive ladies?

Also, have you ever had any males attend one of your sessions?

I've never asked anyone to leave, and I find they are all good at self-policing if it gets a bit wild! As for males, i get a few, sometimes gay friends of the girls will be there, that doesn't bother me. sometimes i've done birthday parties though were there is a mixed crowd and boyfriends/husbands present - thats not cool, thats why i normally stick to hen nights

Why a boyfriend/husband would ever want to attend such an event is beyond me. That seems like it would be incredibly uncomfortable for everyone involved. Your entire night would be focused on not making eye contact with the dude whose wife is drawing your junk.

exactly, like I say if its a birthday party i say it has to be girls only, have learned that lesson!

Proof?

go to my home page now, have left you a message!

If you could spend the day as any fictional character who would it be?

I would go for the vampire lestat, for his knowledge and super human abilites - flying/mind reading/etc. He can get people to do whatever he wants, definitely be him!

Lestat is also very sexually indiscriminate, so there's a bit of a trade off.

thats true, i'm strictly straight but he has his share of women, plus the choice would be mine!

What's the story of these pictures??

1. http://www.lifedrawinghenparty.co.uk/resources/Naughty%20hens%20central%20London%20private%20bar.jpg

2. http://www.lifedrawinghenparty.co.uk/resources/jsc%20%282%29.jpg

That's not me and not my website! Maybe you should ask that guy

How much do you get payed per year?

Like I say I'd love to do it full time, and I'm getting closer to being able to. I've had nearly 50 bookings this year at about £150-£200 a go. Maybe £10k so far then. Realistically I could probably do max 6 classes per week between about March and October so in theory I could make up to £25-30k per year, if I got to that level I'd quit my day job (IT Tech before you ask!)

What's your most embarrassing boner story from one of your gigs?

its not happened that often, I suppose the first time it happened i was pretty embarrassed, it totally sneaked up on me, took me by surprise, the girls had done a burlesque class and were still in skimpy costumes (pretty much in their underwear) I stupidly ended up in a pose with 4 of them laying all over me - honestly took about 10 seconds!

How did the ladies react to it? We're there excited, shocked, embarrassed? Did you just continue like normal?

A wee bit embarrassed to be honest, perhaps a little shocked but didn't make a big deal of it

So you're an art model for bachelorette/hen parties specifically where they hire you to be the model, they pose you, and draw you.

Is that correct?

Is this common in England or the U.K. in general? and other parts of Europe?

"This" being women hiring nude art models and having drawing/painting sessions as part of their bachelorette/hen party.

I've never heard of this in the U.S. so i was a little confused reading the responses. I had "male dancer" in mind, but you were talking like an art model and referring to "classes", but talking about hen/bachelorette parties in the same comment. Then i looked at your website and it was much clearer.

And maybe they do this in the U.S., and i just haven't heard of it. I'm a guy so my experiences with what happens at these things is limited to what i hear.

Have you done any life modeling for legitimate art classes?

I've done a few legit art classes, just for a bit extra cash but i dont enjoy them the same, they are quite boring. As for my work, it is quite common in the UK, not too sure about elsewhere in Europe but I know of about 10 other guys in my area who do this too, it started to get popular about 3/4 years ago, not really sure why it took off. There's agencies set up now specifically for it, i think its probably to do with the recession here, used to be groups of hens would go somewhere like spain for a week, these days a lot more tend to stay at home and so the market for 'home entertainment' has increased.

I am still shocked as to why this is so popular. Women painting men in a bachelorette party? WTF. Is the service available with women?

There are a couple of agencies who provide female models yes, always with a chaperone of course. I didn't invent this, I'm just making a buck of it- it's always enjoyed though, from my experiences its growing in popularity

What's a hen party?

its a party a bride has with her mates before she gets married (bachelorette party)

Do you have a partner? If so how did they feel about your job? If not, how will you deal with it when you do?

I've had a couple of relationships over the last 3 years since i've been doin this, one quite serious. I'm open and honest about it, and like I said, I'm not doing erotic services, its harmless. When I've been single I've dated girls who have been at a class, they've never had a problem. I'm still young, i'm not looking to settle down yet, maybe in time when I meet the right girl if she wants me to stop i will

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yes i have, after a party of course, and i've dated lots of girls who have been at parties. I know i aint got a perfect body, never bothered me or held me back!

What's the worst thing about your job?

Thats a good question, had never really though. At the end of the day its still a job and sometimes there's things i'd rather be doing. Especially as its Fridays and Saturdays i typically get bookings, sometimes 3 different parties on a saturday then I'm too tired to do anything the rest of the night.

Have you ever just had to walk out/leave of a party before?

no actually, thankfully has never come to that

How big is your penis?

big enough thanks!

What is the vibe at these parties? Are people just having a good time in general, or is the focus entirely on you? What kind of appreciative or critical comments do you hear from your customers? Are there many people who are repeat customers, not necessarily of you (gotta have variety!) but of male life models in general?

What body type is most popular among your customers? What kind of physical training do you do to enhance your appearance?

Do you see yourself as part of a community or a tradition of performance? For example, have you heard of Eugen Sandow and the posing sessions he did for society ladies?

Have you ever been tempted to cash in on ladies' sexual desire for you, and if you did want to go down that route, do you think you would have many opportunities?

Great AMA!

lot of questions, thanks, Its all good vibes at the parties, initially there is a bit of a focus on me but throughout the hour or two it becomes a good time for all people aren't too critical, and I get a lot of compliments about my body and my chat, I do get some bookings from parties who want me to appear at another friends hen night/birthday or something, there is a lot of word of mouth. I keep myself in good shape, I do weights and play football and squash I've never read about Eugen Sandow, I will look into this though, i see myself as more of a performance not really i'm part of their society I think opportunities have presented themselves before but i'd never do this- i'm not going to judge those who do, its just not for me thanks!

Curious about body image issues. We're very similar in build (in shape but certainly not 8% body fat), and I feel like I could never charge people to see me nude - perhaps it is just low esteem on my part, but curious the emotions you feel with regard to body image

you're not charging to see you nude, you're providing a service, i never had any issues with this. I'm happy in my body- yes there are guys with better toning than me, bigger biceps, whatever, but i'm ok with who i am

What's your opinion about nudity in our society?

I think there's a place for it, I've been all over Europe and in some countries its normal to have open saunas, nude public parks etc. I think its a shame when it becomes taboo in certain societies, that makes it seem a bit sleazy when it neednt be

Is male life model a nice word for stripper?

Not at all, if you look over my photo's and read through some of the posts on i've tried to be clear on what I see is the difference. My classes are not erotic, I make a joke of it that "i don't work hard!" and stick to this, my performance is that of a life model as you would get in art class. I do not flaunt erections around the room or engage in any simulated (or non) sex acts with any of the ladies. I am there for their entertainment, and aim myself at those who do not want a stripper and all the sleaze which it often entails. for the record I'm not having a go at male strippers, its just something i'm not keen on, you'd be surprised the amount of women who appreciate people like me (and the several other guys who do this) its fun, raunchy, yes you get an eyeful, but there are boundaries and a bit of decorum. its a totally different thing

It has to be asked... Have you ever fucked any of the hens?

no, several bridesmaids but no hens!

I am reevaluating my career choice...

go for it!

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it happens a lot, i am often given numbers and have dated severla girls who have been at a party

How do you not feel awkward around these ladies?

At first I did, and even now arriving at a job there is a bit of a adrenaline - there is an element of not knowing what kind of crowd they are going to be. Sometimes its awkward if they're an older crowd (i've had 50's-70's before who were so out their comfort zone!) sometimes there'll be a "over friendly" few who can make things awkward - hijacking every pose or getting a bit touchy feely, you just have to be professional

What do over 50 women do ? Bake you cookies

50 is a bit much admittedly, it was outdoor to in the ground of a stately home they had hired. it becomes a performance then, there's no real conversation and no one really willing to get involved. I prefer classes of around 10-15

Maybe a joke flew over my head, but I think he was referring to age, not class size.

i think you're right reading back, was getting confused as another question was about class sizes. sorry!

What would happen if you DID get a raging boner? Would it be unacceptable? What follows?

I guess most folk would just laugh it off, still rather not go down that road

You ever run into anyone you did work for elsewhere?

I imagine you can business the whole thing in your mind up until you see them like in a subway or something.

I do from time to time, and once or twice there's been mates of mates or something. That can be a bit awkward at first. As for on the tube or that its funny, sometimes i'll catch girls looking at me, i've got a terrible memory for faces but I get the impression I'm recognised by them on occasion. I do get people introduce themselves and tell me they've seen me pose, its a weird feeling, quite nice actually, no ones ever had a bad word to say

Good on you man, I'd probably be more flustered running into people later on when im just kind of being a slob getting food than actually posing.

its funny if they see you in another context, like if i'm on the tube with a suit on going to a meeting or something, I've been out running before and literally bump into someone too, all sweaty and out of breath doesn't make for a good impression!

Can I have your Job!

you can if you believe you can!

What is the craziest request you've gotten?

there's been a few weird ones, i've let girls paint on me with their feet, ive played twister, i've let them eat fruit off me, i've given (and recieved) massages. The absolute weirdest tho was allowing girls to draw a ouija board on my body then sit around me trying to conjure up something!

is it anything like Dancing Bear?

Sorry had to ask

i've just googled that cos no idea what you were talking about, thank god no one was looking over my shoulder! no its nothing like that!

Hi, just browsed the gallery. The red towel image, was that taken after your breaking point? And if so, was she actually trying to take off the towel?

No that was at the start of the gig, I normally start with a towel then make a bit of a deal of the hen taking it off, good for stirring up a bit of fun

How did you get you first gig in this?

I put ads up online, got some enquiries and just bit the bullet and went got it, it was surprisingly easy

What types of costumes do you have?

Also, £150-£200 sounds kind of low for that sort of thing.

I do a per head/per hour hour rate. typically 10 people one hour I'll go for £100 + expenses (travel). Maybe I could push it further, some bigger classes 25/30 its obviously higher, and some book for 2 hours, I had one group booked for 4 hours before so it can add up. As for costumes, I don't bring any myself, if the girls have anything they want me to pose in I will, within reason!

You need to do some market research and see what others are charging. You probably couldn't get 10 people into a strip club for £100, and you are doing a lot more (and can do a lot more) than what they can do in a strip club. Plus they are paying a lot less for booze doing it at home.

Perhaps have a 'craziness' factor. If they are going to tie you down, you charge more for it.

Thanks, thats part of the reason I put this up today, get a feel from outsiders what poeple thought about it. Thats quite an interesting idea, have a staggered pricing model depending on what they want to do, I appreciate the feedback. even having hands on/hands off prices or something, could get an idea of what sort of party the girls want in advance

How can I get into this business?

put up some ads on local notice boards, you'd be surprised how many enquireis you get

Is it seriously that easy? How much is the demand such a job field?

i get about 4/5 enquries a week - sometimes they all come in sometimes just one or two, sometimes people are just fishing asking questions

What's up man? I just did my first strip show about a week ago. It's not my job or anything, a girl just asked me if I wanted to strip at her party. Anyways, just wanted to say it was fun as hell and harder (hah) than it looks.

good for you mate, hope you enjoyed it. Sure it was some experience!

Is this a job/lifestyle that you would recommend to other people? I always had an interest into it, but the thought of stage fright has always deterred me.

i'd certainly recomend it, I have a great time doing it, i'm sure its not for everyone but if you're interested at all you owe it to yourself to give it a go

why does the gallery on your site suck? I can't click on the small images without it scrolling really fast.

use the arrows to flick through them, I'm sorry I'm not good with html and just keep adding pics to it, I've made my mind up I'll get a new website for next year. appreciate the feedback

no worries. was just a joke lol. gl on website.

thanks!