Chezzabe

Same here, I don't want this to be one of life's great mystery's. At least I want to know how to unlock it.

My biggest wonder is how you wipe your ass after?

Yea, you are not the only one. I would totally sell mine too. I would pay off so much debt! Hmm, feel like I should start up a business. Kidneys for education, that would about pay for your average 2 year college.

I am guessing you think the system is broken. What would you think would be a better solution? I notice a lot of times taking in a foster kid is mostly for the money, and these people that need that money are not doing it for the right reasons or the kind of people that should be around kids.

I wish there were more people like you out there. I hope myself to some day adopt. Just most of the time when I meet people that have gone though foster care it's nothing but a life of pain and misery. It's a hard problem to fix and I don't see any good solution. When you and you wife decided to adopt was it something you both really wanted or was one of you hesitant? I have been in the same relationship for 4 years and from the start I made it clear I preferred to adopt rather than have children. He seemed open minded but as time went on he seems to have changed. Believing that the relationship with the child could never be as strong if they were not your own blood. I have tried everything to change his mind but he seems pretty stuck on it now.