GreatGooglyMoogly077

I'm a white guy at an outdoors club in NY and I'm in a position of authority in the club, and I have to occasionally enforce rules. But almost every time I enforce rules with a black guy I get accused of being a racist, either directly or behind my back. What's the best way to deal with this situation? And it seems like saying "I'm not a racist" is kind of self-serving and not credible at that point.

Is word pronunciation part of grammar? If so, please comment on "nucular" vs "nuclear". This one drives me nuts (as, IMHO, highly educated people mispronounce this seemingly-easy word).

Lots of people also write "there" instead of "they're" or "their" (and right here on Reddit, too). That doesn't make it correct. Besides the obvious fact that the word is not SPELLED "Nu-cu-lar", Google "Pronounce "Nuclear"" and see what you get.

That sounds incredibly wrong. Seems to me a lot of people try to seem more sophisticated by over-complicating or over-enunciating certain words. Ex - "off-ten" vs "off-en".

In that case, please comment on "off-ten" vs "off-en". I KNOW the latter is correct (and I find the former pretentious), but I want to hear it from an expert!!