Lost_in_GreenHills

My family adopted my brother when he was 12. It's been a really good adoption and I think it worked out well. I think it worked well because our parents had firm boundaries but a flexible parenting style--they were willing to try anything that might help.

OP says to not try to do the world a favor and take in lots of kids. Also remember that the kids don't think that you're doing them a favor by taking them in. Gratitude, if it comes, comes years after love is established.

Edit: grammar

I agree completely that it's a bad idea to take on too many kids. I'm sorry if that was unclear. Thanks for doing this AMA, by the way.