Thank you for sharing and for the work you are doing. I was in an abusive relationship, the relationship itself was 3 years and the physical abuse was for about 1.5-2 years of that. I just hit my one year mark of being free of him and have been in therapy working through everything for about 6 months now. One huge fear for me moving forward has been dating. I've been seeing someone and I feel like I over-analyze everything he does. I worry a lot that I'll miss some red flags, to the point where I wonder if something is actually a red flag in a healthy relationship or if I'm being paranoid. Or getting over the expectation that I will be yelled at for every little thing. I know I still sometimes get surprised at things that he'll just brush off, but my ex would have been pissed about for days on end. It's hard to trust not only other people, but also your own judgement.
Anyway, another struggle I have had is sharing my story with others. I've told less than a handful of friends, and none of my family. One of those "friends" I told responded with, "Well why did you let him do it?" so I think I have been afraid of receiving more reactions like that. How long did it take you to open up to other people who didn't know what was happening?
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Thank you for sharing and for the work you are doing. I was in an abusive relationship, the relationship itself was 3 years and the physical abuse was for about 1.5-2 years of that. I just hit my one year mark of being free of him and have been in therapy working through everything for about 6 months now. One huge fear for me moving forward has been dating. I've been seeing someone and I feel like I over-analyze everything he does. I worry a lot that I'll miss some red flags, to the point where I wonder if something is actually a red flag in a healthy relationship or if I'm being paranoid. Or getting over the expectation that I will be yelled at for every little thing. I know I still sometimes get surprised at things that he'll just brush off, but my ex would have been pissed about for days on end. It's hard to trust not only other people, but also your own judgement.
Anyway, another struggle I have had is sharing my story with others. I've told less than a handful of friends, and none of my family. One of those "friends" I told responded with, "Well why did you let him do it?" so I think I have been afraid of receiving more reactions like that. How long did it take you to open up to other people who didn't know what was happening?
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