ThatOldBlackHole

It's her gun, let her get whatever she's more comfortable with. Rent one of each and let her try them.

Hey, adoption's not that bad. And if you do decide on a surrogate, remember that there are tons of kids already out there without homes and parents. It's not your responsibility. But you could be killing two birds with one stone with adoption.

Any tips for a parent of a kid with selective mutism?

Can white people live on a reservation? And if so, does anybody? I imagine you wouldn't be that liked.