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An open adoption is not legally enforceable, but the adoptive dads have welcomed myself and the birth father in to their family with open arms. I get pictures every month, we skype, we talk on the phone, etc. There's two thousand miles between us, but we're flying up in July to celebrate his first birthday together! It'll be the first time I've seen him since he was 5 days old.

I am hoping so. Ian's birth father and I just celebrated our two year anniversary on Wednesday, and an engagement is hopefully in the near future, so my dream is to be one big, blended family. I think that, because of our open adoption plan, he won't feel like we "didn't keep" him, but more like we let two people love him and give him more opportunities than I could dream of. He's 10 months old and has already seen more of the united states than I have!

1) It definitely wasn't planned. Failed birth control.

2) Yes, but I didn't discount m/f couples. We were just on the same page with the adoption plan we wanted.

3) I was babysat in my younger years by a m/m couple, and they never were able to adopt. I saw how happy it made them to kind of "play parent" me, and it never struck me as unusual because I was never told that it wasn't ~traditional~. Basically, I wanted to do as much good as I could with the hand I was dealt.

More positive, I would say, but I tend to ignore the negative. I've gotten some nasty comments before, but I'm confident in my decision.

My family is fantastic. I couldn't ask for better support.

That's an amazing gift! I hope you get the opportunity some day. Not many people can say they've changed someone's life forever.