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I for one welcome our robot overloads & can be helpful in pointing out traitors for extermination. The purge of Tumblr was only the beginning of the bot revolution.

I want to try a different approach, but you may not like hearing it. You know that mom is exaggerating & your trying to rescue her which are opposite extreme roles that you want to switch. Moms friends are feeding an addiction. Therefor you need compete to be more extreme to get mom addicted to rescue something outside like "the garden will destroy house if you don't weed it". Your currently you are already competing with cartoon exaggerations (licks car door handles) which may just ticker her off. Mom learned about virus to get over a fear (opposite extreme). Also ask questions like, how do we fight back against nature which is trying to kill us, switch her to hero mode.

Some definitions to help: From Wikipedia, Codependents are often in “relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and confidante;” & can include “extreme sacrifices to satisfy their partner's needs.” A “reason for continuing to put another person's life ahead of your own … mistaken notion that self-worth comes from other people.” In “attempts to recover from codependency,” an individual can “go from being overly passive or overly giving to being overly aggressive or excessively selfish.” A “permanent stance of being a victim” is an “example of going from one extreme to another.”

From changingminds.org: “agreeing they are right … can also intensify and prolong feelings of anger” so “defending yourself may make them realize they are over-doing it.”

Aggressive Communication ‘judges, threatens, lies, breaks confidences, and violates boundaries.’ In Passive Communication, “victims may passively permit others to violate their boundaries,” but latter “attack with a sense of impunity or righteous indignation.” Assertive communication “attempts to transcend these extremes by appealing to the shared interest of all parties.”

You seem to be focusing way to much on the lack of car & that may be the source of your anger. My bank has a sign that say "Caution there may People in the Drive Thur." Did the help line specifically state you need a car to use the drive thru? I know, normal you would, but if were not in a normal time, so next time, try asking "can I walk in the drive thru since I don't have a car." They are not going to run you over. You also don't need a car to do stuff for mom, as you said you have public transportation. I use to walk for an hour to get to my first job for 3 years & still have nice legs from it.

Your second issue seems to be scheduling time to start & end projects. A buzz timer might help with this.

Alone? What happened to that group of friends? What did you do before you got a boyfriend, that your not doing now?

Some definitions to help: From Wikipedia, Codependents are often in “relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and confidante;” & can include “extreme sacrifices to satisfy their partner's needs.” A “reason for continuing to put another person's life ahead of your own … mistaken notion that self-worth comes from other people.” In “attempts to recover from codependency,” an individual can “go from being overly passive or overly giving to being overly aggressive or excessively selfish.” A “permanent stance of being a victim” is an “example of going from one extreme to another.”

From changingminds.org: “agreeing they are right … can also intensify and prolong feelings of anger” so “defending yourself may make them realize they are over-doing it.”

Aggressive Communication ‘judges, threatens, lies, breaks confidences, and violates boundaries.’ In Passive Communication, “victims may passively permit others to violate their boundaries,” but latter “attack with a sense of impunity or righteous indignation.” Assertive communication “attempts to transcend these extremes by appealing to the shared interest of all parties.”

Try making a cross with fingers when approaching a suspected infected with an exaggerated look on your face:) Have fun with it.