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We have a 5 year daughter who is extremely smart but resistant to learning. Every teacher she has says the exact same thing. She wants to do everything herself even when she does not know how to do it.

If she likes something or is good at it, then she will do it. But if something is difficult, she gives up quite easily.

She always has to be forced to do things that are new or she will not do them. Once she is forced to and learns, then she accepts and excels.

We have always tried to be supportive and teach her that you have to try hard in whatever you do.

Are there any specific techniques to help with this kind of resistance to learning? and resitance from accepting help?

Hi Friend,

Take everything you can. Something might work.

My wife's aunt is inoperable and was supposed to die a loooong time ago. Guess how long she has had cancer for now? 9 years! Sometimes it takes a hell of a long time, even with inoperable.

Not sure why the downvotes. I agree that it should have been included in the article. I think that is a very relevant and useful feature.

"American Chinese" is mostly Cantonese based - and limited in the number of dishes. American Chinese has a lot of meats deepfried in batter and has very strong heavy flavours - or is soy sauce based. Basically think of the menu at Panda Express as American Chinese.

All the other cuisines and dishes you have listed are Chinese - but each area will typically have it's own style.

Northern Chinese typically eat food with more carbs. Their bao and dumplings have more/thicker dough.

Southerners have thinner skinned dumplings.

Each area has its own specialty dishes/flavour profiles.

Shanghai - Many super heavy soy/vinegar based dishes + xiao long bao

Hangzhou - Vinegar lakefish, river shrimp with longjing tea leaves, dongpo pork

Sichuan - Spicy + numbing from sichuan peppercorns (this is called mala)

Dimsum - not sure about Dimsum in middle America but I think Dimsum overall is about the same everywhere. China does have better tasting dimsum than North America and that is due to a few things - cheap labour to make labour intensive dimsum from scratch instead of frozen, access to more better ingredients, passed on knowledge and traditions in dimsum making.

Chinese people from China don't eat much broccoli. There are lots of vegetables which are not widely available in the US. E.g. Lily bulbs, lotus root, shepherds purse, Tong choy (Sometimes called water spinach), different varieties of cabbage, baby cucumbers (the size of your pinky finger), fresh sichuan peppercorns, different varieties of mushrooms, mustard greens, mountain potato, bitter melon, fresh peanuts, and lots of things which I don't know the English names for.

Authentic Chinese food has more variety. There are heavy dishes. There is sweet and sour sauce (I had a whole fish with sweet and sour sauce recently). Some dishes use soy sauce. But there are also many more different kinds of foods.

Hotpot - there are many different types from different places - Sichuan hotpot which is typically spicy and numbing -

Xiao long bao - Din Tai Fung is the standard even in China and Taiwan. I don't love it myself but it is super popular.

I prefer Shengjianbao which is a soup dumpling similar to xiaolongbao but has a thicker skin and is fried to a crisp on the bottom. It is typically topped with a sprinkle of sesame seeds. Shengjianbao are typically the size of 2 xiaolongbao. In Hangzhou, they have a variety which is the same size as a xiaolongbao - I really liked this variety but it is not as common.

In Xinjiang, the people are muslim and look like they are Afghans. They eat a lot of lamb and use cumin in their food. They have stuffed bread which is more like Indian/Pakistani food than Chinese.

I have had Yunnanese food and they use a lot of fresh mint - I had a salad once that was mostly made of mint. They also make a goat cheese similar to Halloumi.

In Shaanxi, they make a lot of different small shape noodles from things like buckwheat. Super different, super delicious.

And there are so many more foods from each of these areas and from other areas around China.

I really recommend watching A Bite of China on youtube (I recommend watching the subtitled one as it sounds better - the narrator does a very amazing job even if it is in a different language)

We forced our first child to sleep by herself for a long time. I regret it now.

Our other two slept with us soundly from the time they were infants. If they ever woke up in the middle of the night, it was to drink a little milk and then they went back to sleep.

Children want to be with their parents, not being with them is unnatural. Our other two children are much more calm and less easily agitated than the first. I don't know for sure if it is because of us forcing her to sleep by herself, but I think it is personally.