Just finished Modern Romance--fantastic, eye opening read!
You talk a lot about texting and “the game.” I am definitely one of those game players who “does not play the game.” Your book made me take a step back. One of the “options” in my phone texted me back 20 minutes after I texted him, so I waited 30. Then he waited 2 hours, so I waited 3. THEN HE WAITED A DAY. He just texted me back. AFTER A DAY. I DON’T WANNA LIVE MY LIFE LIKE THIS, AZIZ. (note: I actually like this guy...I think)
So my actual question: when do we decide when it’s game playing vs. he’s just not that into you?
I have been thinking a lot about the Japanese men, and how a common complaint amongst me and my fellow NYC 20-something single ladies is that men want us all to sit around stroking their egos. I don’t need my ego to be stroked, but when I like someone I don’t want to have to question whether or not they like me. Maybe this is a companionate love vs. passionate love thing. What do you make of all this? Will you be my therapist? Your book changed my life.
PS-I live in NYC but i’m from Monroe, NY(ish). Holla!!!
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Just finished Modern Romance--fantastic, eye opening read!
You talk a lot about texting and “the game.” I am definitely one of those game players who “does not play the game.” Your book made me take a step back. One of the “options” in my phone texted me back 20 minutes after I texted him, so I waited 30. Then he waited 2 hours, so I waited 3. THEN HE WAITED A DAY. He just texted me back. AFTER A DAY. I DON’T WANNA LIVE MY LIFE LIKE THIS, AZIZ. (note: I actually like this guy...I think)
So my actual question: when do we decide when it’s game playing vs. he’s just not that into you?
I have been thinking a lot about the Japanese men, and how a common complaint amongst me and my fellow NYC 20-something single ladies is that men want us all to sit around stroking their egos. I don’t need my ego to be stroked, but when I like someone I don’t want to have to question whether or not they like me. Maybe this is a companionate love vs. passionate love thing. What do you make of all this? Will you be my therapist? Your book changed my life.
PS-I live in NYC but i’m from Monroe, NY(ish). Holla!!!
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