ragingelephant

My sister has talked about that. She had grown up being abused from a very young age. She said that when they would show videos in school about sexual abuse and how to get help, she thought everyone else was going through the same thing. She thought everyone's dad molested them. So when she was involved in relationships like that, she saw it as normal.

Luckily, she has found the perfect man now and is in a very healthy and happy relationship. :) Our story does have a happy ending.

My oldest sister was in a high school relationship with a boy that tried to sexually harass her. When she told my mother about that incident, the incidents with my father came out as well. My mom sat our family down to tell us where my dad had disappeared to and why he wasn't coming home. Later that night, my other sister told my mom that she had also been abused. My half-sister (who never lived with us and was grown up at this time) confessed to my family of the abuse she faced as well, including a recent event. She decided not to press charges because she didn't want to get involved.

I really don't know. I often fantasize about visiting him or meeting with him again. In my head, I see it as a friendly conversation. We catch up on our lives. We laugh just like old times.

In reality, I feel it would be very awkward and tense. Seeing his face.. I wouldn't know what to say and I'd probably just end up speechless and in tears.

I'd really just like to tell him what I've been doing with my life these past few years. I've accomplished a lot and I'd like to tell him about it. I'd definitely want to ask him why I wasn't abused, but all my sisters were. I don't know if I'd ever have the courage to do that, though.

No, I'm a girl. The youngest of three daughters, with two older and two younger brothers. My oldest brother was abused by my father as well.

I talked to my sister once about this, because we were discussing my "survivor's guilt" over not being abused. She said that my father always talked about me like I was just very special to him. I suppose by that point, he figured he had already done the harm to my older sisters, but he was ready to make more of an effort at being a father to me.

By the time all of this came out, he really was being a good father and truly cared for the concerns of his children. The majority of the abuse happened when my siblings were young.