reaverdude

Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING that I've ever read about William Sanders is that he was a fucking hero and more kids could have died that day if it wasn't for his selfless actions. It's important to remember that prior to Columbine, mass school shootings were relatively uncommon and definitely did not receive the type of attention, both media and otherwise, that it does now. As you said in another thread and what others who were there to experience that terrible day have also said, everyone at first thought it was a prank.

Takes a lot of balls to not only recognize a threat like an active shooter early, but also to act on it. The world would be a better place with more men like him on it.

You banged someone I know not too long ago after one of your shows in San Jose.

Good job.

This comment makes his sacrifice all the more poignant. Because of his selfless actions you and many others have had opportunities to develop yourselves to your full potential. Yeah you may have not had the resources to assist him that day, but really, how many 14 year old high school freshmans would? What's stopping you from taking a basic CPR/AED/First Aid course now and once learned, you can go on and teach others? Again, his actions will leave a legacy that is more helpful and inspiring to the world than the two shooters murderers ever have or will.

I hate to take away from your story and I'm really glad you decided to share as I had a very similar thing happen to, almost exactly word for word. It started with false domestic violence allegations and ended up with false molestation allegations after my ex began to feel like she was "losing".

Looking at both of our experiences, I ended up with pretty much the same amount of custody, still have to pay child support, drive a couple hundred miles to pick my daughter up (my ex moved away illegally and which was the reason we were back in court in the first place) and even though my ex was proven to be nothing but a liar, she faced absolutely zero consequences for her life ruining behavior. Even after getting a fair share of custody, I still don't feel that the situation was a "win" at all.

Anyone who is willing to destroy the lives of someone and their children is not fit to be a parent.

Yeah, like you I ended up with 50/50 shared custody after a couple thousand dollars worth of lawyer and court fees, a year on supervised visitation, and immeasurable amounts of grief, anger, sadness and despair.

And you know what? It was worth it. Not only for my daughter, but it was a huge psychological blow for me ex who frequently and proudly stated on several occasions that she has always had "full custody".

In addition, I've seen that you touched upon it in several other threads where people asked you why you thought your ex did it. Other than being a despicable human being, I too ran many scenarios in my head about why she did it (none of them ever justified). One thing I would like to add as a possible reason is that a divorced dad without his kids is just another divorced dad. However, a mom who doesn't have custody makes people automatically think that she has done something terrible. If your ex was anything like mine, she cared a lot about what other people thought of her.

Again, thank you for sharing your story. Even with an excellent lawyer I felt alone many times during the ordeal and even still suffer from PTSD I feel as a result. Glad you were able to gain a semblance of custody like I did.