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Yeah very true. When I was young I called my gynaecologist worried saying I had found a lump in my breast. He basically told me I was being ridiculous, imagining it and that I was too young for that to be a possibility. My boyfriend at the time was like “no, seriously go have that looked at”. Turns out I was right / my boyfriend was right. Still angry with that asshole doctor. Happened so many times in my life. “Nah that’s not possible. Take some paracetamol against the pain, you’ll be fine”, is some doctors favourite response to a woman saying they have a problem and are in pain. They were wrong every single time. I hate going to the doctor.

Have to say I’ve had some amazing doctors too, it’s just always such a gamble if they’ll take you serious and if they care at all.

My dad has some classic cars and was doing some repair work and he was struggling with something when I was visiting. He told me he was missing a specific tool some shops had to reach this particularly hard to reach part for this particular car and that his hand just didn’t fit. I asked him to talk me through what needed to be done and easily managed to do it for him (am female and have very small hands). Can fully understand the need for small hands when working on those cars now. There is no way a standard sized hand could have fit in the tiny gap.

You mention that you weren’t experienced when this happened - would you have reacted differently now then you did back then? And if so how? What can you even do in such a situation? It sounds like an absolutely horrible situation to be in.

I agree with that - I have type 1 diabetes. Women with type 1 diabetes aren’t much more likely to pass it on (you’re much less likely to pass on type 1 than type 2), but men with T1D give a significant increase in chances of passing t1d to their children and more so for 2 parents who have t1d. Now I see T1Ds on the subreddits very often talk about their 2 children having T1D because they have T1D and their partner does too. In my opinion it’s irresponsible- honestly I wouldn’t wish T1D on anyone even if it’s manageable. They say oh it’s fine because my child can learn from me how to manage it. Yeah but why do you need your child to be genetically related to you so bad that you’d rather have them have to live with T1D than adopting. I understand people get upset about me saying that though - I think it’s just from my own perspective I would really not wish on anyone to have to live with it. This is not something I say out loud often though because I get a lot of hate for it.

That’s great that you are wanting to get help! You say it’s at the point where you feel you need professional help but please know that it is always good to get help no matter “how bad” it is. I’m saying that because some people may feel it has to be “bad enough”. I guess what I’m trying to say please don’t feel like it has to reach a certain point before it’s ok to get help. It’s actually quite the contrary - the sooner you do the faster you can get on track to feeling better :)

It’s a difficult step to take but it’s so helpful. Let me know if you have any concerns and maybe I can help you talk them through.

I’m sorry to hear that. How did it make you feel having your ex describe you as manorexic?

I can’t find the statistics on anxiety and eating disorders now but in the UK 50% of patients with eating disorders also suffer from depression. The number likely doesn’t differ much from anxiety (also because anxiety and depression often accompany each other - one can lead to the other). So it’s definitely common and you are not alone with what you are going through. These things are a lot more common than we all tend to think because people are worried about talking about it. Talking about it is so important though. So I’d encourage you to continue on your path. Find professional help, talk to friends and family and maybe read some self-help books. There are a lot of things that can help - especially if you use all of it together. And your life will get better for it.