Tamrynel

Sitting on the other side with my spouse in transition, it's heartbreakingly difficult. Especially for it to have come out after marriage.

She's SO happy about steps towards transition and I'm SO devastated at each step. I'm still mourning my husband I think.

We are in counselling together and therapy individually. I don't think she really "gets" how incredibly hard this is for me. I want her to be happy. I just don't want to sacrifice myself in the process

We're struggling along. I'm unfortunately as straight as an arrow, which sucks a lot. I promised to try, that's all I can do.

Try stardew Valley!

I'm basically committing to try. I don't know for certain that I won't be attracted to her. But I have accepted that its likely going to be the case.

I'm "all in" in the marriage until I'm "out". Hanging in limbo waiting for an AH-HA moment isn't fair for either of us. So we're trying to make it work. It just feels like slow-motion drowning at this point.

Maybe it will get better, maybe it won't. But I need to have at least tried.

It's thanks to people just like you that I am alive (28 years old now).

2 months(ish) prem with VATERS syndrome (VAT baby). Operated on at birth also for the tracheoesophageal fistula. I later had a tracheoesophageal reconstruction at age 9. I can talk, eat, drink and do most exercise.

You are a great person! You give people a future they may not otherwise have had. Keep up the good work!

That's fascinating! How do you protect your eyes and hair from long term damage?