Timbukthree

You mention finding time for yourself, how does one do that if there isn't time and energy left over after all the demands of work, kids, a house, a spouse, and leaving time to get enough sleep?

So what can we do about them? Close all the daycares? Restrict any high risk persons from being around kids? Since there's almost no testing in place in the US, it seems like assuming every child may have it is the only option at the moment.

Do you have a patent?

Thanks for your original reply and this, I'll look into it! It didn't occur to me that incorporating mindfulness into regular stuff was an option, and I'll have to think how I could integrate other people into my "self" time.

And will check the book out, I'm an ADHDer with a probably hyperactive ADHD spouse and two ADHD kids (one dx'ed, the other too young but behaves just like the older sibling). We both work and don't have a ton of family support. Every day feels like it takes everything I have to get through and not be an overwhelmed asshole. And my spouse is fantastic, but her unmedicated hyperactivity (and typically hyper-achiever modality) means I end up dealing with most of the "regular" household and kid needs while she goes above and beyond at work and volunteering and etc. So I appreciate you not just giving the stock advice to "don't sweat the small stuff, do less, find the important things" but rather something that feels more actionable and helpful :)

It's a false dichotomy to limit this to either "overhead is the single most important metric for a charity" or "overhead isn't a useful metric for charities". Overhead is an important metric, but not useful as a single defining metric to "optimize" for. Charities with too low overhead may be poorly managed or have reduced impact, but it's certainly true that charities with large overhead may not be focused on impact.