Do you think this is more of an issue for male or female victims?
I've heard people argue far too many times (about female on male sexual assault [incidentally, not defined as "rape" in England]) that if a man gets "hard" then he obviously wants it, and because you can't have sex with "a flaccid penis" you can't rape a man. I've personally never heard anyone outright argue that if a woman becomes aroused then she wants it, but I do bring up the analogy that if a woman is aroused, does she want it? Normally people respond with "women never get aroused during rape", the contraposition of which is "a woman who gets aroused has not been raped" and may be construed as their argument, but I of course don't believe it since arousal is generally an involuntary thing (especially during rape, obviously).
Coming forward is hard for all victims, but there is definitely a lot more support and encouragement for women than for men. Do you think the lack of support compounded with a widespread idea that "men can't get raped because they always want sex/get aroused" skewers statistics on the incidence of female/male on male sexual assault to make it less of an issue than it perhaps should be?
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Do you think this is more of an issue for male or female victims?
I've heard people argue far too many times (about female on male sexual assault [incidentally, not defined as "rape" in England]) that if a man gets "hard" then he obviously wants it, and because you can't have sex with "a flaccid penis" you can't rape a man. I've personally never heard anyone outright argue that if a woman becomes aroused then she wants it, but I do bring up the analogy that if a woman is aroused, does she want it? Normally people respond with "women never get aroused during rape", the contraposition of which is "a woman who gets aroused has not been raped" and may be construed as their argument, but I of course don't believe it since arousal is generally an involuntary thing (especially during rape, obviously).
Coming forward is hard for all victims, but there is definitely a lot more support and encouragement for women than for men. Do you think the lack of support compounded with a widespread idea that "men can't get raped because they always want sex/get aroused" skewers statistics on the incidence of female/male on male sexual assault to make it less of an issue than it perhaps should be?
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