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Not OP, but as he is unable to feel or control anything in his lower torso, he likely both can't tell and can't control it. There are two common solutions for both.

Poop

1. A bowel program

Basically, you manually make yourself poop at a scheduled, regular time every day or every other day. This gets the bowels on a schedule and prevents accidents. You can make yourself poop by using a suppository or a mini-enema to soften things up, then doing digital stimulation (sticking a finger up there a moving it around to break things up and get things moving).

2. A colostomy bag

A hole in the abdomen is made surgically and then the poop comes out through there. This can help patients stay independent if they are not able to do a bowel program by themselves.

Pee

1. Catheter in urethra

This is basically a tube that goes into the urethra and drains urine into a bag that you can empty. This can either be in constantly or you can just put it in and drain the bladder at regular intervals.

2. Supra pubic catheter

A hole is surgically created in the abdomen and the catheter is inserted through that.

More Resources

Here is a website with more information and here is a straightforward YouTube video from a paraplegic of how a bowel program can work.

Here is a site with more details about bladder control after spinal cord injury and here is a YouTube video from a quadriplegic on how he manages his bladder.

I know I'm not OP and this might be more info than you wanted, but I hope this gives you or anyone else in this thread a better idea of how paralyzed people deal with daily functions like this.

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