realkaseygrant

Last year, I made like 350k.

[ETA: LOL at the downvote at my income. I've never had a downvote that I know of. Sorry, not sorry?]

I never wanted them to find out from somebody else, so when my oldest was 12, I explained it as best I could in an age- appropriate way. I did get "outed" in my community at the time about a year and a half later by the son of a family I was helping financially. That kind of burned, but oh, well. It was inevitable. It was hardest for my oldest, although he invited me to speak to his gender studies class by the time he was a junior, and I got invited back the next year, so he did a pretty good job turning it around on everybody. My middle son said once that somebody said they saw me getting f*cked or something, and he said, "My mom got paid. Why did your mom do it?" They are good kids.

Absolutely not purely sexual. I would say that is a very rare occurrence. I feel more like a nude therapist than a sex worker most of the time. Some of it can be very emotionally demanding, but also very rewarding. People are lonely, and they need affection and to be touched. It's a public service, if you ask me.

Some of them really do like it. Some women are empowered by it. Many educations and better lives have been paid for with all of these jobs. That benefits everybody. However, the industry does attract broken and damaged people, and they do get taken advantage of at times. It's like anywhere else on Earth, though. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you, for the most part. If you can't fight for yourself, it isn't really safe to be anywhere, and definitely not in porn with nobody to look out for you.

Most porn is made for the male, and being a male in porn is SHOCKINGLY difficult, and I don't recommend it ever. I wish I could say that it was in any way good for the men in it or who consume it, but I don't think I can honestly. As the de facto sex education of the modern era, boys are learning all the wrong things and the wrong ways. (I'm working on a project that I hope will repair some of that, though.) I have always felt that the women in most of these settings were taking advantage of the men, not the other way around. I strive to not do that and provide a fair exchange of goods for services.

Sex in my personal life is not even the same activity. I need sex at home at least once a day, hopefully more than that, and it doesn't matter if I have worked or not. It's not even comparable.

No, it hasn't changed for me, but I don't have an OF. (I promised my kids I wouldn't release any new material until they were all out of high school years ago. My youngest just graduated this year. )