thepanichand

I follow the so-called 'pozzers' crowd on Twitter a bit; it is fairly astonishing how many of them seem to engage in unprotected sex, with a simply dizzying amount of largely anonymous partners, and yet still claim to be negative. One guy seems to lay for hours in a sling in a gay bathhouse, having anonymous sex, with as many as 120 encounters in a weekend, and despite actively desiring the virus, is still negative.

What are your feelings towards the gift givers and bugchasers in light of your situation? Why do you think you became positive with protection and they remain negative? Why do you think some men want HIV?

I'm sorry, by the way, that this happened to you. I think that's shitty, and I hope you remain well and live well.

That's interesting. The rationales given for it are varied, but I do wonder about their psychological health too. One guy who is topping/whoring out this bathhouse guy tweets horrible disturbing stuff about how he will dispose of him when he's done, which bathhouse guy is okay with. I'd think this was fake, but there are so many pictures. :/

I always have thought extremes of sexuality questionable for your mental health status, though.

Anyway. It pisses me off that you wound up infected, and I'm sorry you're depressed and feel awful. I'm happy to chat to you via PM if you need a friend.

Can everyone please downvote all the dickheads in the bottom of the thread making totally tiresome moose/maple syrup/sorry jokes? Jesus Christ.

Did you find any of the relationships worked long term? No matter how open minded/nonjudgmental I try to be, I always find the poly people I've known break up over it, no matter how into it they seem to be.

I'm not criticizing. It's just that I've seen poly relationships of 15 and 20+ years respectively both split up recently as a result of being poly. Any relationship can split at any time, of course, but I'm not convinced that having multiple partners and long term stability in a relationship is a lifelong reality for most people. I don't honestly think it works by and large.