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That is terrible to hear. As an anesthesiologist myself, that is the kind of mistake that would haunt you forever. I am so sorry to hear about your brother.

Sounds like he is in a fellowship, extra training in a subspecialty, not quite out and making better money yet.

I agree with huhdude. you had a proven tumor in your pelvis. the surrounding area looked desmoplastic. had you had prior abdominal/pelvic surgery? you say that your tumor pathology came back endometrial tissue, ie your lady parts. so it seems to me that your tumor was invading local structures. this makes dissection very difficult. this is a shitty situation, but I doubt the surgeon committed blatant malpractice, based on what little info we have in front of us. the surgery was not unreasonable to perform, and the end result, however unfortunate, is not avoidable in 100% of cases, even by the best of surgeons. I hope things things get better for you.
source: I am not a colorectal surgeon, but I see them all the time

My first day in residency, my chairman told us "every person in this room will eventually make a mistake that kills someone." Talk about setting you on edge early on